Tuesday, October 12, 2010
"HOLY BOLDNESS BATMAN!" A Warning for School Bullies!
Today, I have a question for parents. Do your children feel "safe" at school?
I'm not talking about fear of a catastrophic events like tsunamis or crashing jets (although both concern Isaac). I am wondering if, as you are preparing them for just another school day, does your child feel truely safe. Can they spend the day away from home without the fear of another student losing control? Will they feel welcomed by all their fellow students? Are they learning in an environment where adults are protecting our children from unnecessary threats? Is your child being harassed by a bully?
Mine are! Barely into the first semester of the school year, we have already needed to deal with two incidents with school bullies. So, while home dishing out the Peptobismal for the daily "tummy aches" and complaints about not wanting to go to school, for the first time, I recognized fear in our daughter's eyes about her day at school.
Yes, fear! Coming from rural USA, a small community with loving neighbors, I was unnerved to learn that my little girl was stabbed with a sharp pencil by another student. The "incident" was calculated by the student who waited, and baited her back, literally, to his newly sharpened pencil. Granted, her injury was minuscule, but it is the behavior of the student that is also bothersome. Today it was a pencil; what would it be tomorrow or in five years? I learned that this student has been heard making threats to others and repeatedly commenting to our daughter in a menacing way; "I hate you!" Long after the mark on her back heals, a piece of her broken spirit remains as such words tear away at her heart... and mine.
Why? Who would he hate my adorable baby girl? Seriously???? But, perhaps like your own child, mine is a good student, quiet, and well disciplined. As a mom, I will never forget this evening as I listened to her recount the incident, the walk alone with the bully to the office, the shake in her voice, and the tears in her eyes. She became the target of a bully.